BECOMING A THREE-DIMENSIONAL SELF We all have the three core innate drives over- emphasized by the Self-Improvers, Connectors, and Do-Gooders. Those three core drives are authenticity, connection, and impact. Authenticity is related to self-integrity. Connection is about relationship integrity. Impact has to do with societal integrity. Which do you focus on most and neglect most? The split among Self-Improvers, Connectors, or Do-Gooders has caused our understanding of integrity to become
dangerously limited and blinded. The time has come for all of us to realize that to be a complete self, we must honor all three of our core drives. “Natural developers” have been found to intuitively use seven core life skills to balance their three core drives and attain integrity- centered life fulfillment. It has also been found that anyone can learn to do on purpose what “natural developers” do intuitively. This is the secret not only to attaining the life fulfillment we seek but to resolving today’s pervasive integrity problems and the splits that are damaging our unity as a society.
DO-GOODERS Do-Gooders tend to define their sense of self around being a leader or a supporter of specific causes. Their passion for positively impacting the world tends to cause them to neglect their personal well-being, authenticity, healing, creativity, and/or relationships. Sadly, many Do- Gooders do not recognize that their one- dimensional definition of self prevents them from having as much of a positive difference in the world as they yearn to create. Do-Gooders tend to view Self-Improvers as so self-centered that they are helping to create many of the problems that Do-Gooders seek to correct, and they tend to view Connectors as "bleeding hearts." On the other hand, Do- Gooders need to be made aware of how their inattention to personal development impairs their relationships. Many Do-Gooders genuinely do have their hearts in the right place. But, they don't realize that being out of integrity with themselves and their relationships prevents them from co-creating the better world they yearn to build.
If not you, who? If not now, when?
David Gruder, PhD, DCEP, is a multi-award-winning psychologist, international speaker/trainer, and bestselling author, who mentors thought & market leaders dedicated to elevating humanity & making integrity profitable. The book from which this article was excerpted, The New IQ: How Integrity Intelligence Serves You, Your Relationships and Our World, was a groundbreaking 6-award-winning how-to manual equipping readers to step into dynamic levels of personal, relationship, business, societal, and leadership integrity. Since then, that material has evolved into two comprehensive online programs: The Integrity Guide to Having It All. And SuperChange Catalysts™. Learn more at: https://www.DrGruder.com/Academy.
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